Whenever someone enters into our life and adds colors and a zing to the present life style, our heart gets filled with elation, we complain why this person did not come earlier and at the same time we thank our luck for the wonderful gift. Now when the same person gets ready to depart from life, we feel cursed, broken, and lonely. This is nothing new, all natural. We again start complaining that if this person was destined to go, why he/she came and we are left we no answers except a blank in the mind. Read on to know the reason.
Well As per my experience and observation so far, everyone comes into your life for a reason and when that reason gets over, the person leaves you in no time. We remember the sudden changes that took place around us when the loving person departed but same sort of situation and scene was created around us when that special someone entered in. Following human behavior, we remember what bad has happened and we easily forget the good ones. For example, if you take lift from an office mate more than often and he too doesn’t mind dropping you but one day the same helping person has some work in the other direction and politely expresses his inability to take you, you feel bad and remember it as a bad behavior. In a moment you forget all those countless days when he helped you with smile but one day, when he refused, all his past record was vanished.
Coming back to the main topic, nature knows well what is our need at the moment and who is the best to fulfill that and it creates the ambience in favor of that event and presents you with the ultimate remedy. And similarly, when the role of that person ends, you are left with all the experiences you had with him, be it bad, or good. When the person departs, just compare your life before that person had arrived with the present situation. You will easily get the reason, why that person was indispensable for you and now why you must bid a good bye to him.
The best way to live happy is positively accept the role of that special one in your life. Make use of experience you gained, even if it was not so good. One thing is worth noticing that nothing is final and permanent in nature, everything that comes has to go and the more we mourn, the more we hurt ourselves.
The moment that special person came into your life, someone somewhere was left alone with all the experience to carry over. So be thankful to nature for its intelligent adjustments and put your efforts in a positive and forward direction. Remember, you can always be chosen as that special someone in someone else’s life. So always maintain a smile on your face and be prepared to be that special someone.
Please note that in order to maintain consistency, I did not use ‘he/she’ repeatedly. The article stands true for both.
Happy Living
Prashant Shrivastava
prashant@friendstime.com
When we talk about love anywhere anyways, the first concern that clicks mind is the love between man and woman. Normally I write about love in a general way but today I would like to put my focus on love between man and woman.
Love here starts with an attraction. Most of the times it is physical attraction but at times it also starts with some quality of person like good speaking skills, writing skills, or simply a sweet nature. In the beginning, we find our love the best person on the world and all their demerits get hidden over the quality of being liked by heart. So whatever said or done by lover becomes the universal truth and fact and life simply rejoices.
Following all happy days, comes time when demerits of each other get revealed and the other person has to except many things. In the name of adjustment, they bear all the bad habits of each other but as many people know about the relationship, they put up a show that their relationship is free of all tangles and is the coolest one on the plane which is 80% truth.
Now slowly the problems begin to creep into their relationship. They become more irritated over the issues which they easily ignored few months back. Now allegations, which were just a medium of kidding, escalate to the arguments and the close friends start smelling what’s cooking up. So as a matte r of friendship, closer friends of each of the partner of love, come forward to remove all the problems but by now, things have gone out of hand.
Sooner or later the day comes when they decide to depart, or one of them decides to dump the other. The stage following this is the most painful one. Both allege each other publically in friends and in friends meetings and parties. He tries to be comfortable with other girls and same does she.
See, few months back, the person who was equivalent to god for them has become the worst human being on the planet. In the entire process, I did not see love anywhere, did you??
Initially it was attraction or in clear words, it was sheer need of partners for emotional reasons and as it was attraction, it had to fade away. We know each thing, be it tangible or intangible, loses its lure someday or other. And this sort of attraction is no exception.
Love on the other hand, is a completely different thing. It can only start, and improve but can never end. If you love someone, you cannot allege them at any instance of time, and at any occasion. Even if your love has betrayed you due to selfishness, you still cannot stop loving them. Love is something that does not expect anything in return. It knows only giving. So if you are expecting anything from love, you are doing business and not love.
So, if you think that you have a big heart of giving up everything for love, you are most welcome to this magical world. Remember, true love means you should be able to surrender your love to someone else just in case if your darling loves someone else instead of you.
And for those who expect returns from , Call it anything but Love.
Prashant Shrivastava
prashant@friendstime.com
Tags: beauty of life, feelings. lifepartner, love, valentines day
Black is future…
Having said that I don’t mean that future is not good or bright, instead I mean that future will be bright provided proper decisions are made today. The one of the most important thing we need to proceed and develop is the energy which is now declared to be short. Be it petrol or electricity, their conservation is the only way out to have them available when we need.
So, it’s up to us whether we need extra lighting to decorate our house or a patient needs it to be operated in the Operation Theater. We can of course chose to use energy without any consideration, without any need to face the scarcity in our rest of the lives but this is very certain to have an effect over next generation to come. Next generation this is not only of others but ours too. Who knows electricity that you save today well might help your son to get operated or study.
When we work to save energy, definitely it also seems that we are meager. Even your neighbor might laugh at your frugal attitude but some day in future, they who call you meager will salute you for your deeds and will regret for their idiotic laughs and senseless usage.
We cannot have a day passed without using the computer. So, is there any way we can save electricity or simply put energy? Yes-there is some intelligent webmasters who are developing commonly used sites like search engines, messengers etc in a darker shade which saves energy. Blacksearch.in even shows you the count that you save each time you use that search engine.
This and more are just a way to get started and they might not help you right away but for sure, you will be on the right side. And future will not blame you for any mis-usage.
Nishant Shrivastava
Help Yourself!
Republic India is celebrating its 60th anniversary today and with all pride, we also have to acknowledge the fact that in the name of a developing country, we left many areas of problems intact. They were the problem when we got our country in our hands and those still are the problems. But surprisingly issues that rose later drew all the attention and even got ameliorated in a positive direction if not resolved. For example nuclear capacity, mission Moon, IT market and infrastructure etc but price hike, illiteracy, education, basic amenities etc are still persistently problems.
Lot is said about all these issues every now and then and then we feel that lot is being done to improve upon but little does appear as good result. In the speeches of our Netas, we never heard that IT is a problem or Space program is a problem and since they were not problems, no solution was needed and surprisingly we did well in those fields.
The point is, that anything that is termed as a problem is not given due attention and they remain so and this is so because, those are the only issues on which elections are fought and imagine if there are no such issues left, then what will those white painted people ask you for?
And even this is evident that any such issues that drag our own people back can only be resolved by miracle or good fortune. Unemployment which got dramatically reduced in last few years is a result of unprecedented boom in the IT sector.
So we have to wait for another miracle that will give us relief from other problems or another idea is there? Yes-I think. Since it’s a democracy, we must learn speak up for our rights and question people who are responsible for problems, and show them the way of exit. If some moron asks for bribe, slam them by complaining to the concern department and also put that on some popular site or inform the media. And if you fear, which you should in today’s times, stay anonymous and add to the problems of problems makers.
Don’t ever measure your problem in terms of its magnitude, go ahead and report it. Ask for bill for every purchase, inform IT department if you see your middle class neighbour owns more than he can afford. Ignorance has to be put aside. You may not be helping directly to your cause, you may be not making a big difference to the system’s correctness but still, go ahead and help yourself.
Jai Hind and Happy Republic Day!
Prashant Shrivastava
Phones have come a long way since its invention by Graham Bell. From most expensive instrument to very low cost, it has travelled a lot, especially in the last decade when mobility was added to this device of communication. Today, getting a phone and connection is as easy as buying grocery from supermarket. Pick it and have it. Being a cheap and highly featured device, it is most used these days. It won’t be overstated if I say it is being over used today. But do we remember the basic use of Telephone, probably not fully. Read on to remind that.
A phone was meant to communicate in a lively manner so that you can not only get to convey the messages instantly but also can hear the live voice of your near and dear ones. Today also we do this but, we call only those who are actively in touch with us, for example, our class mates, office colleagues, girl friend, or parents…the list has become short while the conversation between these contacts has stretched to unimaginable limits. I noticed a friends talking for hours to his girl friend but when one of his aunt called and complained about not calling them, he spelled the favorite excuse, “I am short of time aunt”.
I am not trying to point to any crime that we commit by talking to one person longer in one stretch but indeed not calling other well wishers even once a while is definitely not so good.
Most of the calls we make are related to some purpose of us that gets conveyed or resolved or simply moves further by a phone call but we seldom call to those who will not make any difference to our present life. for example we call an office mate to convey late arrival in office today to the boss, we call our lover to fix a date or more commonly, resolve the last conflict, but do we call a friend of us for no reason. Do we call them to know how life at that end is? I am sure we all know the correct answers to the latter questions.
The situation today has worsened to an unimaginable depth. So agreeing me if you make a call to your friend with whom you last time conversed long ago, the friend would be apprehensive and would firstly think, why is this guy calling me? What could be his motive? What can I do for him? it financial help or any favor or what?
By the tine these thought run through their minds, the active call turns into a missed call.
Having seen this, you again become reluctant to retry. On the other hand if the girl friend is not taking your phone, you start repeating calls until she tells that she was in Bathroom.
And when you don’t ring again to your old friend, he too wastes no minute in ignoring the call.
See how far we have come in our lives. We all know what is needed. We are well apprised of the needful but we simply use popular excuses and feel that we have dealt successfully with the situation. In fact we have lost something precious.
If you read the article with heart, I am sure at least one name has occurred in your mind. Don’t wait dear, just pick up the handset, open the contact and make a call. Remember to try enough times. I am sure when you End your call without any demand to the other side. A fresh feeling of love and affection will waft on the air. Go get going…I am going to make a call right now…
Happy Living
Prashant Shrivastava
prashant@friendstime.com
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