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Importance of Ignorance

prash — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 21:06:06 +0000

Ignorance is the word closely associated with laziness and carelessness but if used properly, it can serve a well set life. Normally we are made to ignore things that are not in our control. For example if mindless boys flirt with girls in cheap way, girls have to ignore them anyways or if someone plays a bad prank with you, you have to ignore and so on…but do we use this power with our own will, perhaps not. Let me try to explain what I think on this.

We come across many small and big incidences in our daily life in which few we like and other we don’t. This is still fine but few incidences affect our mental status. They send us in a bad mood instantly more than often. For example if you love someone and in return, they simply don’t and on this, they repeatedly do those things in front of you that hurt you, you get hurt every time. Since you love the person, you don’t want to ignore and pay attention every single time, but you end up with a hurt heart.

In such a situation, ignorance works wonders. Paying attention to the situation or person that hurts can be replaced with ignorance. This needs not be rude one. Politely divert your way to make sure that you don’t get hurt. For example if you feel isolated when in company of a group or set of friends, humbly turn down their invitation and at the same time, get yourself into some activity that does not remind you of a social meeting you just ignored.

This is quite possible that your friends, who don’t value you, miss you out and pay more attention towards you next time. Remember, this does not mean that you don’t care for the situation or person but at the same time, it’s only your duty to keep yourself happy. A happy you is not a selfishness but a service to others as well who really care for you. At times, we pay extra attention to someone and as matter of human nature, they take us for granted and we feel bad.

People also use the ignorance to show off importance. This is not that bad but as they say, everything is good if in limit.

All this does not mean that paying attention is a symbol of weakness. You pay attention when it matters to you but again a constraint of limit needs to be imposed here.

Most of the times, we also pay attention to trivial things that make no or very little impact on our life. For example, if a prankster boy took a sharp over take and left you bewildered for few seconds, what you do is start cursing him, then to the entire generation of youngsters then to their atmosphere and finally parents. What happened was a simple display of ill manners of driving on road. And that incidence surpassed with the speed of that guy who disturbed you but you later improvised it to hurt yourself and paid at least few minutes. Do you think that guy deserved your important and priceless time?

On the other hand, if you had ignored that at the same instance, situation would have remained the same but you could have saved our mood from turning bad.

So next time when you confront with any such situation, analyze and ask yourself, whether it deserve my attention or ignorance.

Happy Living

Prashant Shrivastava

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Woman- better manager?

prash — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:10:29 +0000

When it comes to the management, we naturally look towards big management schools and end up with a man well dressed as a manager who wears a smile on face all the time and who knows all the situations and their respective handling. But this is a truth half known. Men must be taught rigorously to become a manager who after years of hard work learns new skills that they use as panacea for every problem. And the same men struggle to find their car keys and wallet at the office time back home. So got some clue, who can be a natural manager, yes you are there! A woman, who has all the abilities in built and she just starts managing stuff, life right from the word go!

It is not just that woman manage a much perplexed house than office matters that men deals with, she also has the ability to maintain the arrangement that is must for management. For example as soon as a particular file is done, she would first place it on right rack then will proceed to new task, while men will let them pile on one side at least till the evening or congestion at desk, whichever comes first. This is similar to the example in which a husband will waste five minutes in looking up a car key that he kept few hours ago and her wife would take just a minute to get the gas cylinder book which she used a month ago.

Management is a very broad term and hence a manager cannot be confined to a specific kind of management. They must manage even those issues which were neither taught to them nor were expected. For example, an employee walks up to a manager and complains about down computer. Now manager is not supposed to fix a computer but here they will have to either arrange a new pc immediately or see if some other employee is not using their pc which can be given to troubled employee temporarily. Here too woman wins the race as back home they help kids in their homework. Here she deals with even those subjects which are either alien to her or are beyond her understandings. In such case she will work hard to grasp the subject and help kids. Similarly she will take care of husband’s mood and kids’ demands. Considering the down pc case again, man soon will be frustrated if the solution does not appear and will eventually ask the employee to take another task.

Multitasking is another characteristic that makes a manager superior and more efficient and studies have proved that women can multi task much better than men. They can cook on two burners while attending a phone call and a postman at door while if same task is given to men, some of the tasks will suffer for sure. We have seen numerous cases when men meet accidents more than often if they use their cell phone on the way.

Given same amount every month, a woman smartly meets the ends of the month while man will run for a credit card use if even a single extra expenditure pops up.

Scientifically speaking, woman mind is adept at management as she can multitask while keeping equal concentration on all tasks in hand. She has good arrangement habits by default and her attitude of keeping things easy makes her a better choice for the post of manager.

Prashant

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